When your mom starts dating
Preschoolers and grade schoolers may not show much interest in your love life.Tweens and teens are more of a challenge because they’re coping with puberty: “They don't want to think about their parents’ sexuality,” Blackwell said.Wrong", answers this and some additional commonly-asked questions concerning men who aren't yet ready to make someone other than mama number one in their lives. As the son of this type of mother grows up, he often fears that his mom will fall apart if he so much as moves to the neighboring zip code.So, it becomes a mutually parasitic relationship; both mom and son are afraid to be independent of each other.Regardless of how old your children are, take your cues from them and answer their questions openly, with age-appropriate language, Blackwell said.And err on the side of less, rather than too much, information.
For children of all ages, it’s important for parents to provide them with the opportunity to “grieve the loss of the family,” Blackwell said.For instance, kids shouldn’t even meet first or second dates.“You don’t really want the kids bonding with someone new unless you know that person’s going to be around for a while,” Blackwell said.A dad we know recently mentioned that a friend’s children are dealing with their parents’ divorce, as well as the new relationships each of the parents is striking up.Which made us wonder: What’s the best way for a recently divorced or separated parent to juggle kids and a new relationship?
It’s fine to talk about people you’ve met, but she advises against bringing them home right away.